I am really fond of photography. I don’t have DLSR camera but recently, I bought Huawei Mate 9 mobile and I really love its image quality. Here are some of the snaps I have taken in Australia.
- Become genuinely interested in another people.
Do this and you will be welcome anywhere
You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. Most of us have a feeling that other should get interested in us, we have to be the center of attraction and as people are lacking to understand the fact, they are seeking happiness. They feel loneliness. If you really do want to make friends start to like you then, be interested in them and they will surely start to be interested in you. Don’t try to make them like you, just like them and they will like you.
Remember that people are not interested in you. People are not interested in me. They are interested in themselves.
A simple way to make a good first impression
Expression’s one wears on one’s face is far more important than the clothes one wears on one’s back. Just imagine someone with the latest trend fashion but has not a good expression. How do you feel? There is more information in a smile than a frown. When you see someone, known or unknown, just give a smile and the smile comes back. Your smile is the measure of your goodwill. Your smile brightens the lives of all who see it.
Remember that you must have a good time meeting people if you expect them to have a good time meeting you.
- Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language
One of the simplest, most obvious and most important ways of gaining good will is by remembering names and making people feel important. How will you feel when someone with whom you once meet a long ago suddenly met you and he still remembers your name?
When you meet someone for the first time, always ask for the name and keep it in mind. A name is one of the most important parts of human life. People love their name and they even love more when some pronounce it. It makes them the sense of important.
Remember that if you don’t do this, you are headed for trouble.
- Be a good listener. Encourages others to talk about themselves
Many people fail to make a favorable impression because they don’t listen attentively. They have been so much concerned with what they are good to say next that they do not keep their ears open. They don’t want to listen, they just want to reply. If you want other to like you, then just listen to them.
People who talk only about themselves, think only of themselves. People who only think of themselves are hopelessly uneducated. They are not educated no matter how instructed they may be. To be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener.
Remember that to be interesting, be interested. Encourage other to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.
- Talk in terms of other person’s interests.
Just imagine a situation when one of your friends is talking about cricket match but you have no any interest on that, instead you are interested in Football. Do you ever love to listen to that friend? If you really want to make people genuinely interest you, then always do favor of them, what they want to talk and listen about. It will help to create a strong bonding between you. People will be interested in you only when you are interested in them. No matter how good you are in talking about something that the listener doesn’t want to listen to, it has no meaning.
Remember that to interest people on you; always go with the topics they are passionate about.
- Make other person feel important and do it sincerely
Everybody wants a feeling of important. Everyone wants to be the center of attraction. So, if you want to make people like you, then make them feel that they are important to you. The life of a person could probably be changed if only someone would make him feel important. Talk to people about themselves and they will listen for hours.
Remember that to make people like you instantly, always make them feel important.
Dealing with people is probably the biggest problem you face, especially if you are in business.
Everyone want to handle people. Most of us want to be the center of attraction but not all of us succeeded. To influence people, you have to follow these three main principles which are most important in real life.
Principle 1: Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
Criticism is dangerous because it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance and arouses resentment. If you want to win the heart of other people, then never ever complain.
Don’t complain about the snow on your neighbor’s roof when your own doorstep is unclean. Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain and most fools do. Instead of condemning people, let’s understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do.
When dealing with people, remember that we are not dealing with the creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion motivated by pride and vanity.
To know all is to forgive all.
Principle 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation
The only way I can get you to do anything is by giving you what you want.
Giving sincere and honest appreciation is another best method to influence people because it motivates them. We should never forget that all our associates are human beings and hunger of appreciation. The deepest urge in human nature is ” desire to be great”. Due to this, everybody loves appreciation.
”Once I did bad and that I heard ever, twice I did good but I heard never.”
Remember that don’t be afraid of an enemy who attacks you, be afraid of friends who flatter you.
Principle 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want
The only way to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it.
In the real world, we are interested in what we want. we are interested in how big we are- not how big you are. If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the things from that person’s angle as well as from your own. we have to arouse in another person an eager to want.
If sales people can show us how their services or merchandise will help us solve our problems, they won’t need to sell us. We’ll buy. And customers like to feel that they are buying – not being sold.
Do the things you are afraid to do, and the death of fear is certain.
Fear is a thought in your mind – a negative thought. It means that you are afraid of your negative thought. If you want freedom from fear than there is only one way to get rid of it – Faith. Have faith in yourself. Supplement your mind with constructive thoughts.
Fear is people’s greatest enemy. Fear has killed millions of dream.
Most of our fear has no reality. We are headed of false thought in our mind. The things we feared did not exist.
Remember that we were born with only two fears, the fear of falling and the fear of noise. All other fears were acquired.
Generally, there are two types of Fear. They are Normal Fear and Abnormal fear. Normal fear is good while abnormal fears are destructive. So, always get rid of abnormal fear. For example: If someone points out a gun in your forehead, then you have fear of death and this is normal fear. But if you are starting a new business and you have fear of loss then that is abnormal fear.
Abnormal fear is caused by the particular experiences. They are passed along to you by your parents, relatives or friends. The world is full of people who are afraid that something terrible will happen to their children.
Remember that if you have fear of failure then, immediately give attention to success.
Nothing can disturb you but your own thoughts. The power is within you when you focused on the good side.
Learn to laugh at your fear.
Don’t become the victim of false beliefs.
Among the last six Habits, the first three are personal victory and the rest two are the public victory.
The last habit is all about renewing these habits.
Sharpen the saw
In order to be effective people, you have to invest on yourselves. No one else can do it for you. You must do it yourselves. For this, you have to develop these six habits in your life.
In order to develop these habits in your life, you have to take care of the four basic factors . They are Physical, Spiritual, Mental and Social.
Remember that you have to sharp your habits to be the effective one. You have to make yourself better day by day in order to live effective life.
It is the highest activity in all life. It is the habit of creative cooperation. In short, it refers to a teamwork. The combined working together is greater than the sum of the efforts of the parts. The essence of synergy is to value the differences. You may be smart alone but together you can be brilliant. Two is better than one.
Everyone has different views over the same object. Someone may see the young lady while the other may see the old one. It depends upon their own perspective. Whatever the options or views they have, always respect them. All people see the world not as it is but as they are.
If two people have the same option, one is unnecessary. You don’t have to agree with them. You can simply affirm them.
Seek First to Understand, then to be understood
One of the habits most effective people have is they seek first to understand. For that, they listen carefully, understand them and later on reply. Communication is the most important skill in life.
The major problem that ordinary people have is that most of them do not listen with the intent to understand, they listen with the intent to reply. They are ready to reply before they really understand the problem. They judge based on their own perspective but in reality, they have to look from other perspectives if they really want to find the solution.
Remember that satisfied needs do not motivate. It’s only the unsatisfied need that motivates.
The key to good judgment is understanding. By judging first, a person will never fully understand. To understand, you must listen first. When you listen, you learn. Because you really listen, you become influenceable. And being influenceable is the key to influencing others. The more deeply you understand other people, the more you will appreciate them, the more reverent you will feel about them. See life through each other’s life.
Before the problems come up, before you try to evaluate and prescribe, before you try to present your own ideas, seek first to understand.
The initial three habits were part of a Private victory that will lead you to self-control. Let us look at them in brief:
- Be Proactive: Principle of personal vision
- Begin with the end in mind: Principle of personal leadership
- Put First Things first: Principle of personal management.
The fourth habit is related to Public victory.
Most of us have been living in a belief that our life is a big game where some win and some lose. We seek life as a competition where if you don’t win someone else will win. Due to this concept, we are living our life to beat other so that we can win. Winning is everything for us. It doesn’t matter whether other lose or win, but you have to win anyhow.
Remember that defensive minds are neither creative nor cooperative.
You basically get what you reward. If you put good people in the bad systems, you get bad results.
To be effective people, you must value the needs of other. Whenever you are dealing with someone, it is better to go with a WIN/WIN concept rather than WIN/LOSE concept. It really builds your interpersonal skill. WIN/WIN is the best strategy because here both the parties win. If you want to have a long-term relationship with your partner, then this habit is a must for you. You must care your needs along with your partner.
Remember that you have to water the flowers you want to grow.
Along with ”Be Proactive and Begin with an end in mind”, there is a third habit which most of the effective people possess. It is – Put First Things First
Many of us have things to do on daily basis and we prioritize them based on our priority. But in reality, we have to schedule based on their priority which many effective people does. It’s not what’s our priority but it’s what the priority of the things- the importance of the things. So, always do the things that are important rather than the things that you want to do but are less important.
The ability to manage well doesn’t make much difference if we are not even in the right jungle. Effective management is putting first things first while leadership decides what first things are.
Do you know what is the key reason of a successful person?
The successful person has the habit of doing the things failures don’t like to do.
Management is discipline, carrying it out. The challenge is not to manage time but to manage ourselves. Effective people are not problem-minded, they are opportunity minded.
Satisfaction is a function of expectations as well as realization. Frustration is a function of our expectations and expectations are often a reflection of the social mirror rather than our own values and priorities. 80% of the results flow out of 20% of the activities.
Trust is the highest form of human motivation.
A successful person always has a learning attitude. They learn from everyone, everything and every time. Let people learn from your mistakes or the mistake of others. Point out the potential failure paths what not to do but don’t tell them what to do.